Tips on how to take a respite break

Working around the clock takes its toll on caregivers and planning a little "me" time is not selfish, but an essential aspect of your own health and well-being. Here's how to plan your respite break.

People with long-term illnesses appreciate routine. so plan your break around this concept — start with small breaks and make them part of the routine. Check out weekly social groups or arrange to meet a friend on a weekly basis. Why not take time out to have a hair cut or massage?

You will need to get someone to sit with the person you are caring for, and this can be arranged through a charity group or even the local council social work department. Close friends or family may also be willing to help on a short-term basis. By introducing a volunteer or paid caregiver for only a short period of time each week, the new routine will blend with the normal pattern of care.

Some nursing homes offer placements for short-term respite. This gives you, the primary caregiver, an opportunity to have a rest or go away for a few days. Your family doctor can also advise you about places for a respite break. If you do choose the respite home option, be sure to visit first and make sure it is up to the standard you want for your loved one and, if possible, have them visit too. This will allay any fears they may have about being left alone or with strangers.

Once again routine is important, so explain to your relative or friend that you need a break and make sure they are comfortable with this. Chances are they will be pleased you are having a rest. Choose your dates and book them, ensuring your doctor and any other caregivers involved in your loved one's care are aware of your plans.

If you do not feel confident about leaving, then plan a short break such as a single day, night, or weekend at first. Ask the respite centre to phone you if there is a problem. Once you get confident at taking a break, you can plan for longer ones in the future.

Caring for a loved one takes its toll, so make sure that a respite break is part of your care.